For many years, I worked in a very specific way.
My goal was to build a portfolio of people who enjoyed my company and wanted to repeat over time. Because of that, my rates were designed so that anyone could afford to live this experience regularly.
Today, my way of understanding my work has completely changed.
I am no longer looking for a long list of people who return time and time again.
I am looking for people who want to learn.
My greatest satisfaction would be for someone to come just once, discover so much about their body, pleasure, communication, and their own sexuality that they would never need me again.
Do some people return?
Of course.
Some come back because they want to keep learning.
Others because new questions arise or they are experiencing a different stage in their lives.
And others, simply, because they enjoy my company.
Because a session with me does not consist solely of an intimate encounter.
It is a deeply human experience.
I don’t play a character.
I don’t act.
I don’t follow a script.
I am exactly the same person inside and outside the session.
We talk about sexuality, but also about emotions, relationships, self-esteem, fears, personal experiences, and life.
Many people end up feeling like they have spent a few hours with a friend who has also helped them better understand their own sexuality.
And that makes every encounter completely different.
The value of experience
Not long ago, someone made me reflect.
A drag queen can receive more than 400 euros for a two-hour performance.
A saxophonist can receive more than 800 euros for a full day’s work.
And no one questions that value.
They have dedicated years to training, practicing, and perfecting their profession.
Then I thought…
Why should a sexuality professional, with more than fifteen years of experience, training in sexual coaching, communication, human relations, and knowledge acquired after accompanying hundreds of people, value all that expertise less?
It was then that I understood that what I truly share cannot be measured in minutes.
I share experience.
I share knowledge.
I share calmness.
I share trust.
I share tools that many people will continue to use throughout their entire lives.
And perhaps that is much more important than the duration of a session.
When I changed my way of seeing it, new ideas appeared
By understanding that my true purpose was to accompany and teach, I began to see my work from another perspective.
I asked myself at what moments in life that accompaniment could have a greater impact.
And, almost without realizing it, I thought about weddings.
What if the best wedding gift wasn’t an object?
We are used to gifting money, appliances, trips, or gastronomic experiences.
However, there is something that will probably influence that couple’s relationship for many years and that, curiously, almost no one prepares for: their intimate life.
What if there was a space where they could speak without shame?
Resolve doubts?
Learn to communicate?
Discover how to enjoy without rush or pressure?
More and more clearly, I imagine an experience designed for the days leading up to the wedding.
A peaceful moment in which the couple can get to know each other better, understand their differences, reduce nerves, and begin this new stage with much more security and confidence.
And, if they wish, they can even naturally prepare for that first intimate encounter as a married couple.
It is not about replacing their wedding night.
It is about helping them experience it with less fear, fewer unrealistic expectations, and much more connection.
Much more than a wedding gift
The more I think about it, the more possibilities I find.
An experience like this could be a wedding gift.
Also an anniversary gift.
Or a gift for a couple starting to live together.
It could even be the beginning of a process for people who have never received practical sex education and wish to start discovering themselves in a respectful and conscious way.
Perhaps today this idea seems strange.
But there was also a time when going to a psychologist seemed weird.
Or hiring a personal trainer.
Or having a wedding planner to organize a wedding.
Needs change.
Society evolves.
And perhaps, in a few years, preparing a couple’s intimate life before getting married will be as natural as choosing the dress, preparing the dance, or planning the honeymoon.
I don’t know if this idea will become common.
But I do know one thing.
If I can help two people start such an important stage of their lives with more confidence, more communication, and more tools to enjoy their sexuality, then imagining it will have been worth it.
A personal reflection by Blassia
This article gathers a personal reflection based on my experience accompanying people for many years. My vision of sexual coaching, sex education, and couple relationships has evolved over time, and today my priority is to offer tools that help people live their intimacy with greater confidence, communication, and well-being.
If you want to know more about my way of working, you can visit the page of Blassia or discover other articles about sexuality, relationships, and personal development on my blog.
